Tools for Navigating Conflict [RFTR™3]

Rupture. Freeze. Thaw. Repair.™
(For s/Self, In-Relationship, In Conflict)

Ways to include & CANsider all parts of ourselves, each other, and our missions and communities in times of conflict.

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RFTR™3 is a practical, relational course designed to support individuals, relationships, and communities in navigating conflict while inside of it—without leaving ourselves, one another, or what matters most behind. This work invites us to stay present with discomfort, complexity, and growth, especially during times of rupture and change.

The Four Stages of Conflict

In this course, we explore four core stages that commonly arise in conflict:

Participants are encouraged to bring real, current conflicts (with names and personal details removed) to work through these stages in grounded and supported ways.

Relational Lenses We Work With

We explore the dance between personal and relational ruptures through multiple lenses, including:

This multi-layered approach helps us locate responsibility and accountability in consistent, ethical ways—supporting stronger, more nuanced structures for our relationships, villages, missions, and projects.

Composting Conflict™

At the heart of RFTR™3 is the practice of Composting Conflict™. Rather than focusing only on in-the-moment resolution, we commit to tending the deeper learning and growth that emerge at the edges of discomfort. This is where transformation happens—where what once felt stuck can become fertile ground for new understanding.

Growth, Awareness, and Inner Work

For the s/Self to grow in relationship, we are asked to be present with internal expansion—and with the ruptures to familiar structures that inevitably accompany transformation. For any relationship to grow, we must also grow inwardly: examining our beliefs, biases, reactions, and patterns.

This work cannot be done through a simple “right or wrong” lens. Doing so only perpetuates cycles of dismissal and division. Instead, we practice coming into graceful acceptance of our evolving ISness—honoring where we’ve been, how we arrived here, and our ongoing capacity to shift and grow.

We can do this.
(If we’re willing to lean into the discomfort at the Edge of Change.)
And we can do it together—even when parts of the work are deeply internal and witnessed only by you.

What We’ll Explore Together

Participants will build skills and understanding around:

• Seeing yourself as part of the whole
• Understanding different kinds of reactions and how they arise
• “Stop, Drop & Roll” tools for working inside reactions
• Boundaries—how to feel them in yourself and respect them in others (yes, there’s a matrix)
• Dancing well with others: foundations, connection, expansion, and penetrative dynamics
• Alignment Awareness: Are we aligned? How? Is it supportive or corrosive?
• Seeking and assessing aligned connection through goals, methods, priorities, mission, and position

Guest collaborator: RoniJean Andrews-Neal (Harnessing Intent / Planet JWoW)

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Course Flow & Logistics

• 4 live sessions (Fridays, 6:30–8:30pm EST)
  • Jan 16
  • Jan 30
  • Feb 13
  • Feb 27
• Platform: Zoom for live sessions
• Community & materials: Discord (notes, recordings, discussion; WhatsApp only if needed)

Each session includes:

• Teaching and story-based examples (first hour–75 minutes)
• Guided breakout rooms (individuals, relationships, professionals/organizations)
• Structured packets with questions, tools, and worksheets
• Facilitated support and optional group or relationship work

(Date/time is shiftable until after the first class—please note this during registration if it’s a determining factor.)

Exchange

• General Community: $40–$123 (single person)
• Relationship Dynamics: $75–$200 per person (2–5 people)
• Professionals: $450–$600
  (Includes RFTR™3 10-hour Certificate of Completion upon homework completion)
• Community Events: $350 per event + $200 per person
• Organizations: Contact privately for pricing
• Sliding scale & alternatives available—please reach out if cost is a barrier
• If you can afford more, know your support helps sustain and grow this work

Private sessions available—contact for details.

Registration

• Registration deadline: January 14
• Minimum of 5 paid registrants required for the course to run
• Once registered, you’ll be added to the private class channels in Discord

This Course Is…

• A continuation of s/Self InnerCartographical work
• Part 1 of the TouchStones Certification Path
• Part of Guardianship Training
• A soft entry point into LIWE Studies (Planet JWoW)
• A foundation for Growing Ourselves as Pillars in the Community

Whether you are returning or brand new, RFTR™3 offers a grounded, supportive, and deeply useful entry point into this body of work.Ways to include & CANsider all parts of ourselves, each other, & or our missions & communities in times of conflict.

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Feel invited to checkout this video intro on this process
(this was from the RFTR: s/Self in Relationship Lvl 1)

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Some places you could choose to go to next:

• Learn More about Live Classes with Raine.
• What is InnerCartography?
• See Available TAYOP Courses
• Learn more about Alchemy Of The Seasons School
• Home Page

You’re welcome to contact Raine directly via messages on Discord (join the Discord here), or reach out by email at MountainWomanMedicine@gmail.com. You can also connect through any of the social media messaging platforms.

A small personal note from me, Raine:
This season is beautifully full, and I’m often holding many threads at once. If you don’t hear back within a few days, please don’t hesitate to reach out again—gentle follow-ups truly help keep your message present and on my radar. Even a simple emoji or a brief “checking in” note is incredibly helpful and very appreciated.

I will respond as I’m able.
Both of these things are true—and transparency matters.

With care,
Raine (RNEF)