Shadow Language

It is important to understand as we move through these next few topics is that language is a thing that wakes the mind from its slumber.

Here’s the conundrum: we need to talk about the multitudes of things that can live inside of one body. The shadow being only one aspect that, even in its singularity, has a multitude of faces.

Before we can talk Multiplicity, we need to talk Singularity.


WE EACH HAVE ONE. Yours is not mine, and mine is not yours.

What about the notion that “We Are All One”?

Well, we are. Yet, we must understand our separateness if we are to come into healing wholeness and shift the global trending frequency to a higher level. We are here to experience and understand separateness (the shadow), then we can appreciate the connectedness and shift to “Oneness”. Too often I see folks who speak of Love & Light and then fake it while waiting for something magical to happen. I’m here to say we need to talk about these things openly to gain the most growth. Love, Light & Dark.


I am not describing the one you were told you had to live, nor the one you molded yourself into. Let’s talk about a unique reality that is all your own. A reality unique to your own brain, heart, mission, shadows and perceptions. When we OWN our own reality, a beautiful thing happens. We begin to honor our own unique experience of life. Within that single reality that is yours, a part of your birthright is being born into human skin. Here comes the relationships inside of Your personal Reality. Just the basics first.

It’s already a three-way relationship.

1) You – human skin bag you (your emotions, your Shadow Aspects, your Experince of Separateness, your DNA keys on the molecular level, Your ISness).

2) Spirit – YOURS (Gift/ Essence, the knowledge, consciously or unconsciously that you’ve brought forward, your a Experince of Oneness,.)

3) Human and spirit’s experience of skins environment – outside energies, relationships, interactions, all that is NOT you, but apart of your experience, because you are surrounded by it, thus influenced BY it, also your edge – between ISness and Notness. This brings us to the edge of Boundaries conversation. (A whole article on its own for another time)

Can you see why Shadows are so intricately important? We can’t truly see our gifts, let alone manifest them, without considering the shadow and working together with it.

Now Let’s /discuss “Mulitplicity withIN Singularity”.

Artist: Megh Curry. Visit Sundarta by Megh to view more of their art. *Concept of ‘multiplicity withIN singularity’ expressed in visual form.

Think of a diamond in relation to a person (you). Each has its slivers and facets that Time has had a hand in creating. Through which each aspect can be used to “see” the whole of the stone (being that it’s transparent) When we do in this kind of investigative self work, we are peering closely in through one facet to deeply understand what the insides contain, as there are often phantoms, shimmers or pockets of water or air that can only be seen from one perspective or facet. So we magnify the object of study (yourself) and choose for a moment to look through one lens, one facet, one perspective, accepting it as it is, to better understand the whole of the diamond. (You). Remember, what you find in that zoomed in perspective (no matter WHAT IT IS) is simply a part of the greater whole – You Must Zoom Back Out to fully understand how its Being is essential to the whole! Most get stuck in that “zoomed In” place, losing sight of how it affects the whole of a person and thus are perpetually in the place of feeling overwhelmed by their reality.

It takes a balancing act between science and art to fully understand and be able to work with/dance with our shadows. This Process is the “science” bit, the zoom in and out emotional mechanics along with the finesse, compassion and timing of how it flows for the individual is the Art aspect.

You could call this the Ethical Dealings with Shadows. You see, they are always gonna want something, the’re always going to ask just a little too much. You must zoom out the perspective to see how it will affect the whole and make your Choices There! Otherwise you’ll study your shadows till the end of time and make no headway with how life plays out for you. Because you are NOT just your shadow. The curse that shadow can sometimes bring into your world is a gift in disguise, a disguise that falls away when you step back, zoom out, and see how it can be of Service. Shadow work is Service Work, it is Heart PAth work. Those that delve with their shadows are Heart Path Warriors.

Let’s now take that perspective another step out. Looking at other realities Not our own. Looking at the collective of humanity. Remember, We are each individual beings on this “matter based level”. Each of us is a walking skin bag housing a spirit that is here to experience the Human Experience. We are not humans having a spiritual experience; rather, we are spirits having a human experience. Each has their own unique reality in which they experience life inside their head and emotions. And while we can often empathically understand what another is going through, we are really just looking through our own lens and understandings into another’s reality. Which is why connection matters SOO much, and can mess us up! Being that we exist in this bubble of reality that is own Beingness. Our ISness, it’s really the rest of the world that gives us reason to expand, to seek to understand something outside of ourselves.

Now that the “multiplicity within singularity” is a bit deeper understood, let’s move into a few languaging tools. For once we can find a common language about a thing we can begin to talk about it, discuss it, develop shorthand and delve deeper quicker. Languages and labels are only helpful until they’re not, right now they are, so let’s go there.

ISness: Active State of Being.

(It was necessary to have a simple multi use word, so that deep subjects could be explored with ease.)

ISness can be used as a noun, verb or adjective (Thankyou JWOW) The state of, and sum total of all the things that you ARE, your choices, your reactions, your YOUness, your YES’s. It’s a place that we are often defensive of, preparing for others to question the validity of our ISness, as though they somehow know better then we do about a reality that is not theirs. When you find an ISness in your reality, accept it, love it and watch it grow. Your shadow is a reflection of your Isness. Though if it came down to it, your truest self is your shadow… You’ll see what I mean if you stand with your back to a light and look at the shadow at your feet. In that moment your shadow is a simply a reflection of you, and a possibly distorted one at that, depending on the angle of the light source behind you. This shadow is more apart of you (ISness), then not you (Notness), even though it’s outside of you. You couldn’t’ cut off the shadows hand and effect yourself. Where as if you cut your own hand off, suddenly the shadow is now handless.

Isness is essentially the meat of the territory of the map that is each of our own realities. Core ISness being the centerpoint of that map.

NOTness: The denoted quality and state of denial or refusal

and sum total of all the things that you are NOT, the things you have said NO to, where you didn’t react, didn’t make a choice. Where you chose to put no energy; the only place you truly have no control, because you gave it up by NOT going there. Notness is flexible. It is constantly being redefined, explored and reshaped. Notness It is essentially the edges of our map of who we are. All the unexplored territory, or the territory that we Choose to not utilize. (Notness and ISness will be deeper explored in the next 2 sections, this is just the intro)

Owning: Accepting the result of an outcome as a choice of your own making and becoming account-able to and for those choices. 

Ok, we good? If that bit didn’t make sense go back through and reread it until it does, the rest builds upon it. Queries, quandaries and inner-quarrels are all welcome.


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